Our Heartfelt Thanks to Hospice
November is a month devoted to gratitude as well as National Hospice and Palliative Care Month, a time that gives recognition to, and education about, these important end-of-life services.
Hospice is often misunderstood. After all, unless you have been there or work in the field, you may not know about the many gifts it brings to those who are at life’s end.
And of course, hospice is more than just an institution or a type of health care. It is the people — social workers, nurses, aides, doctors and volunteers, lots and lots of volunteers — who care for patients in their final weeks, bringing all their humanity to the care.
But what’s clear from these messages of thanks is that hospice care touches not just the patient, but their families and partners, giving them final moments with guidance from a calm, caring touch that they will always remember.
Hospice workers, this article is dedicated to you. From Solace and the families you’ve served, we say thank you!
“Thank you for being there for our family. Even when he became agitated and we were scared, you stayed calm. What we will all remember, is how you brought us into his room and said it was close. You suggested we pray, which you knew was important to us. You stayed with us, you held us, you helped us get through that day. Thank you from all of us.”
“Thank you for being honest with me about how things were going to go with my mom at the end. I didn’t want to hear it initially, but your kind, compassionate manner made hearing this information so much easier. Thanks for being brave enough to talk to me straight. It made my mom’s final days so much easier for all of us.”
“Being with my sister when she was dying was the hardest thing I have ever had to do, but you stayed with me every step of the way. I was grateful for your help during that tough time, but what will stay with me always is the day you walked in the door, after she had died, and walked right up to me and held me and let me cry. I could not have done this without you, thank you.”
“I want to express my sincere gratitude for the role you played in my mom’s care. Each week you would check in or visit, to see how we were doing. You always made sure that we had what we needed. We really appreciated the overall constant care and personal interest. Also, I’ve been reflecting on our conversations and how uplifting they were to me, and I hope to you as well.”
“I will never forget the day you picked up the phone when I feared my sweet husband was dying. You talked to me until he died. You told me what to do, and what to say and how to be with him. Your words comforted me and helped me to not feel alone and I will be thankful to you for that forever.”
“Thank you for sticking with me when I wasn’t sure I could actually make his wish come true. You believed in me, and because of that, he was able to have the death he wanted. I will always be grateful for that.”
“I was a mess, I didn’t know what to do, I was scared and sad and you sat me down on the couch and asked me to talk about him. You kept saying, ‘say his name,’ which I didn’t understand at first but after the third or fourth time, I felt a calmness come over me, like he was with me. I say his name all the time now. I appreciate you more than you know. Thank you for doing the work you do.”
“Thank you for crying with me. Thank you for holding my hand and being there for me the entire time. I will never forget you.”
Photo by Vonecia Carswell