Your ‘Loved & Lost’ Letters

This month, we’ve been inviting you to share letters to people in your life who have passed away.  As we shared in our last blog, the act of writing can be healing and sharing those letters can help others. If you’d like to share your letters with us, you can email us at or share in your social media accounts by tagging us and using the hashtag #letterstolovedandlost.

Need more tips? See these posts on the Everlasting Memories and Altogether Stronger, Luna Luna Magazine and the Grief Dialogues websites.

Here are a few highlights from the letters we’ve received:

It’s been nine years now. Still missing you, big brother. Love you, wish we could talk. RIP, Mark.

Hello mum.

I miss our Sunday talks, our conversations about everything & nothing.

I miss your wicked sense of humor, sarcasm & laughter.

I miss our day trips to the rolling hills of the Pennine Way.

I miss your stories.

I miss your English cooking – cups of tea, beans on toast (with an egg chucked on top) & absolutely best chip butties.

I miss your determination, perseverance & belief in me.

I miss you making up words.

I even miss (unbelievably) those notorious grumpy moments.

I miss you, mum.

Love you,  David


Many people in their lives have friends or even best friends … BFFs, but not many people have a best friend who they could call a soulmate.

We had a fun friendship — we would walk around Cambridge, Massachusetts, enjoying the funky art and music scene together and, of course,  who can forget about you making me an hour late for my wedding! … Remember when we hadn’t spoken for days and literally ran into each other on the Upper Westside of New York City. Who just runs into each other in New York?

That afternoon we had a spontaneous lunch and you made me laugh so hard I felt like I was going to get kicked out of the restaurant. … My beautiful, smart, funny best friend — you were taken too soon.

God bless you, Marty!


Happy Valentines Day my Brian,

Every day you still make me smile. You are there for me now as you were when we walked hand-in-hand or when you smiled kindly when I was having “one of those days.”

Your voice is with me as it was when you sweetly called my name to say, “Ann … I love you.” I miss your gentle, sweet kiss and your generous warm embrace. If not for you in my life, I may have never known how it felt to feel truly adored. I still feel like I won the lottery. 🙂

You will be in my heart forever and for that I am eternally grateful.

I love you and will always,

Your Ann

Mom, you would be so proud of J. He’s singing in four choirs, going to France this summer and running like the wind. His singing comes straight from you, I remember your voice, loud and high and spirited. We miss you.


My dearest daughter, Stella Ann,

Words cannot express how much I miss you. I think about you all of the time. I remember when you were born and I was a teenager, but in my heart I felt that you were one of the most beautiful babies I had ever seen.

I used to sit and play with you as though you were my doll. You were always so smart, loving and talented.

We are still having a hard time with you leaving us, but we know you are in a better place and at peace. Goodbye my love until we meet again.

Thanks to all who have shared their letters. We hope you’ll take the opportunity to write one, whether or not you send it to us. We hope you’ll find that the writing process brings you some comfort.


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